Your Doorways Crawl With Fear (Bobby Peterson & Phil Lesh- "Pride of Cucamonga")

           Only our 16-year-old son awaits his second vaccine. The rest of us are fully vaccinated. This week has been remarkably similar to the previous Covid 19 years at this time. Our kids have been getting themselves packed for summer camp jobs in Pennsylvania. My wife has been finishing up with her school responsibilities and preparing for her summer camp job as well. Indeed, they are excited. Yet at the same time, we are constantly dealing with the very genuine fear and anxiety of “re-opening”. Their camp won’t be allowing visitors to camp as they want to create a bubble. Even though life seems to have opened “south of the border”, it is clear both socially and politically,  there remain concerns around the U.S. Canada border. Similar concerns have affected travel between provinces. A recent Poll from the end of May reflects that nearly 52% of Canadians have anxiety about re-opening, and that anxiety is higher in younger people ages 16-30. ( Stephanie Taylor, The Canadian Press CP24 New May 26th). The re-opening anxiety is not confined to Canada. It is a real thing. Roughly half of the United States shares the same anxiety. Part of the anxiety is based upon the notion that going outside will be different than before, however, we do not know exactly how different. Despite our best attempts to remain connected through phones and computers, relationships returning to “live” situations are just different from “virtual” relationships”.  Also, like any muscle that hasn’t been used, that begins to atrophy, the first few times it begins to get used, will cause soreness and even pain. It seems that the same holds true for re-opening. 

          This week we read from Parsha Chukkat. This Shabbat we read from Parsha Chukkat. Chukkat begins by telling us the Law for the Red Heifer. The Priest who prepares the mixture of water and the Red Heifers burnt ashes will render the entire nation spiritually pure; but the mixture will render him impure. A brief narrative concerning the death of Miriam, the lack of water, and B’nai Yisroel’s resulting anxiety and lack of faith leads to the issuance of another test of faith in the Wilderness. Moshe and Aaron don’t know what to do; so God tells them to speak to the rock and water will spring forth. Instead of following instructions, Moshe succumbed to his anger and hit the rock with his staff. Indeed water came out, the people drank, but Moshe and Aharon were punished. Aharon died and Moshe learned that he would not be able to enter into Eretz Canaan. As B’nai Yisroel resumes its wandering, they are attacked by Amalek. As a result, B’nai Yisroel must detour around the heart of Amalek territory. The people complain to Moshe again. They try to seek permission from the Sihon, the King of the Amorites, to pass through Amorite territory. Sihon denies permission and B’nai Yisroel attacks and eventually defeats the Amorites. Og King of Bashan tries to prevent B’nai Yisroel from marching through his land, B’nai Yisroel, with the help of Hashem, defeats King Og and his army.  The Parsha concludes with B’nai Yisroel settling on the Plains of Moab on the eastern side of the Jordan poised to enter Canaan.

            Towards the end of the Parsha, Moshe and B’nai Yisroel, now consisting mostly of a population that never experienced slavery firsthand, fought and battled against several of the indigenous tribes.  By this point, Moshe’s sister had passed away as well as his brother Aharon. Really, the only people that the Torah records as adult slaves in Egypt, who left Egypt, who crossed the Reed Sea, who stood at Sinai, who had been attacked by the Amalekites, who, like Moshe dealt with the negative report from 10 of the 12 spies were the two spies who offered a positive report: Joshua and Caleb.  Moshe is indeed the elder. After defeating the Sihon king of the Amorites, Moshe and B’nai Yisroel turn north. Vayifnu V’Yaalu Derech HaBashan And they turned and went up by the way of Bashan Vayeitze Og Melech HaBashan Likratam Hu V’ Chol Amo Lamilchama Edrei And Og the king of Bashan went out against them, he and all his people to the battle at Edrei. Vayomer HaShem El Moshe, Al Tirah Oto  And God said to Moses “Fear him not”. (Num. 21:33-34). Clearly, if God is telling Moshe to refrain from feeling scared, then obviously God is aware that Moshe is fearful.  Until this moment, at no point since embarking on this job as leader of the Jewish people and engaging in this incredibly close relationship to God, has Moshe displayed fear or been described as fearful.  So, Why now? Why after all that Moshe has been through with God and these people does God tell Moshe Al Tirah Oto? “Rashi, citing the Talmudic Tractate Niddah 61a, explains that Og was one of the last “giants' ' from the era of Noah and the Flood. It was Og, who had helped Abraham the Patriarch during his War with the 5 Kings. However, Rashi’s explanation and the Talmud’s explanation do not suggest that Moshe was afraid of the physical, “flesh and blood” of Og. God told Moshe Al Tirah Oto - Do not fear Oto. Oto means “him” and “it”. Is God telling Moshe not to fear “him”, (Og) or not to fear “it”,?  What would the “it” be referring to? Perhaps the “it” that Moshe should not fear is what Og symbolizes, the elimination of one of the last obstacles of Moshe and B’nei Yisroel fulfilling the covenant and entering into the land.  Moshe has just buried his sister and his brother. He must feel incredibly mortal and that something new is set to begin. Moshe is scared of “it”, fearful of the remainder of the process, the process of entry in Canaan. Moshe understands that “it” will not include him for much longer, and that could be a cause for fear and anxiety. 

         Apparently, Moshe’s fear was palpable. Given his age, the fact that he just buried his sister and brother, he knew that his time was drawing to an end. With each obstacle to the entry into Eretz Canaan eliminated, Moshe was one step closer to realizing his mission, transitioning out of leadership position, and ultimately never fully realize his He must have needed to address Moshe’s fear. To some extent, we have made adjustments in order to negotiate life amid a pandemic. We have refrained from hugging and shaking hands. We hesitate just a moment or two when we have to contend with large groups. We hesitate about things that we never used to be hesitant about. The anxiety of returning to “normal” is very real.  However, life amid the pandemic has meant that my wife and I have not had to worry about our son going out with his friends, and driving to high school parties. Life amid the pandemic has meant that we haven’t had to worry about him coming home late. Life amid the pandemic has meant that I haven’t had to stay awake in case of a late-night phone call or text telling me to pick him up. Life amid the pandemic has meant that we have not had to contend with a whole host of concerns and anxieties associated with the social life of teenage boys.  However, we all know that as soon as he receives the second dose of his vaccine, all that will change.  I guess being a parent means living with a certain amount of fear and anxiety, whether fully vaccinated or not.

Peace,
Rav Yitz 

Now Is The Time Of Returning With Our Thought Jewels Polished And Gleaming (Robert Hunter & Phil Lesh- "The Eleven")

As a parent, as a father, I have a hard time when I am unable to “make it better for my children”. Certainly, there have been times when I have deliberately chosen NOT “to make it better” because I believed that our son or daughters needed to “make it better” him/herself. However, when I am unable to make it better, I feel as if I am failing my child. Well, while the Jewish people ushered in a new month, and the first vestiges of the moon could be seen;  our 17year-old daughter, spent another night staying up late studying for tests, writing papers, and preparing for the standardized test required for college/university admissions in the U.S.   Usually, I am the last one to go sleep and since it was Rosh Chodesh (the New Moon), I took a moment before heading up to bed to look at the first slivers of the new moon. Our daughter came downstairs, and  I turned around. I took one look at her, and I could see her unhappiness, exhaustion, and anxiousness.  I asked if there was anything I could do.  Frustrated, tired and emotionally drained, she began to weep. She looked up and said that there was something I could do. She asked if I could add more hours to the day so that way she can finish her work. I explained that the ability to add more hours to the day is way above my pay grade. I asked if there was anything else I could do. “No”, she replied, “I just need you to give me more time.” I suggested that we can make"time" more special, we can avoid wasting time or we can fool alter our perceptions of the rate by which time passes.

This week's Parsha is Bo.  The ten plagues culminate with locusts, darkness and finally the killing of the firstborn. On the night of the last plague, God instructs Moshe to tell B'nai Yisroel to recognize and observe Rosh Chodesh, the first day of each month. God instructs Moshe to tell B’nai Yisroel to slaughter a lamb for each family. The blood should be painted onto the doorpost. The sacrificed lamb must be completely eaten that night with no leftovers.  The command continues with God instructing Moshe to reiterate this story to the children of each family. The Parsha concludes with the command to sanctify the firstborn, remember this night, remember what God did for B'nai Yisroel, and how B'nai Yisroel eventually returned to the land.

This is perhaps the first Parsha in which God we read of more than one commandment.  Prior to this Parsha, maybe three of the 613 Mitzvot could be derived from all of B’reishit (The Book of Genesis) and the first two Parshiot of Shmot. Now we read both narratives as well as commandments. While the commandment that focuses specifically upon Pesach, the commandments such as Korbonot Shel Pesach (Passover Sacrifice), eating the Passover Sacrifice, completely finish eating the Passover Sacrifice, eating Matzah, removing the leaven, prohibiting the uncircumcised from eating the Passover Sacrifice, the prohibitions of eating leaven and seeing leaven and owning leaven, sanctifying the firstborn, redeeming the firstborn and recounting Yetziat Mitzrayim, the Exodus from Egypt to name a few. However the first Mitzvah, the first commandment that God tells Moshe, Aharon, and B’nai Yisroel does not explicitly focus upon the Exodus but rather upon time and keeping track of time. VaYomer Adoshem el Moshe V’el Aharon B’Eretz Mitzrayim Leimor Hashem said to Moshe and Aharon in the Land of Egypt, saying: HaChodesh HaZeh Lachem Rosh Chodeshim Rishon Hu Lachem L’Chadshei HaShana: This month shall be for you the beginning of the months, it shall be for you the first of the months of the year. (Ex 12:1-2) Certainly, all the Mitzvot that follow this commandment, those that focus specifically upon the Exodus, warrant God’s speaking to Moshe and Aharon.        

From a narrative perspective, it makes sense that the Torah tells us that these commandments were issued while they were still in Egypt; B’nai Yisroel had not yet actually left Egypt but rather making its final preparations. Why is the first commandment issued focused upon counting? This month will be the beginning of months; it will be the first month of the year? How will they know when the next month of begins? Sefer HaChinuch, a 13^th century text written by Pinchas ben Aharon HaLevi of Barcelona clarifies this issue. Sefer HaChinuch (the Book of Education) lists all 613 Mitzvot in order of appearance and corresponding to each Parshah. Also, the author provides a moral and philosophical explanation of each commandment.  Regarding the commandment This month shall be for you the beginning of the months, it shall be for you the first of the months of the year, Sefer HaChinuch says Klomar K’SheTiru CHidosha Shel L’Vana Tikb’u Lachem Rosh Chodesh In other words, when you see the renewal of the moon, you will establish for yourselves the beginning of the month O Afilu Lo Tiruha MiKeivan Shi R’Uyahn L’Heiraot Al Pi HaCHesbon HamKubal – or even if you do not see it, once it is due to be seen according to the accepted reckoning. So the moon’s cycle will serve as the indicator of the beginning and end of a month.  M’SHarshei Mitzvah Zo K’dei Shya’asu Yisroel Moadei HaShem BizMaNaM – At the root of this precept lies the purpose that the Israelites should keep the holy days of the Eternal Lord at their proper times… Before God gives instructions about how to observe the Exodus, these soon to be former slaves must be able to control time, or observe time so that they will know the right time to observe God’s festivals.

            The first step towards freedom is to observe the passage of time, mark the passage of time, and declare the right time to observe time-bound commandments. Until now, the master, Egyptians, told the slaves when to wake up, when to sleep, when to work and when to eat. Now, these former slavers will have to establish their own schedule and keep their own calendar. Of course, this schedule and this calendar must be for a higher purpose. It cannot be a schedule or a calendar in which there is nothing but rather it must be filled with opportunities to engage and celebrate what is to be free; free to serve God.  Yes, my daughter is overtired frustrated, anxious and feels overwhelmed.  In a moment of anxiety, she exclaimed that she didn’t even have time to breathe. In some small way, she understands the most fundamental aspect of slavery. Time belongs to someone else. However, despite the sense that there neither enough time nor that time belongs to another, our 17-year-old daughter appreciates that moment during the week, where time feels as if it belongs to her. Shabbat, with its myriad of restrictions, slows time. As a result, time is recaptured and she can claim her fair share of it.

Peace,

Rav Yitz

One And Only Rebel Child, From A Family Meek And M (Merle Haggard - "Mama Tried")

Maybe I am getting mellower as I get older. Although, my family would passionately disagree. Perhaps, all the gray hair on my head and in my beard indicates that instead of becoming mellower, I have truly become wiser. I am sure my family scoffs at that characterization as well. Maybe the wisdom that is embodied in all my gray indicates wisdom at choosing battles, especially with my children. One such seemingly minor event occurred on Monday of Labour Day when I spent most of the day running errands with my seventeen-year-old daughter. When we began, she gave me the list of errands, and only one caught my attention and was worth a follow-up question or two. She wanted to stop at a store and get a second ear piercing. I chuckled and she asked if I had any problem with her request. Now if I was younger, as I was with our eldest daughter, I would have said absolutely not, I would have told her that she can do that when she goes off on her “gap” year in Israel or while she is away at University. In fact, I did say to her two older sisters when they made a similar request. I asked why she wanted a second piercing. Her response was truly insightful. She explained that she didn’t have to ask. She could have borrowed the car and went to get the second ear piercing or pierce some other part of her body. She explained that at her age she could have done any number of things to “rebel”, to express her independence, and her individuality. I asked her one simple question. Is it more important to get the second piercing or rebel?

 This Shabbat, we read Parsha Ki Teitzeh. Moshe teaches us the laws concerning war, creating an environment for soldiers to behave as honorably as possible. We learn that everyone, whether “loved” or “hated” has rights under the law as well as entitlements. We learn that every one of us is responsible for the other. If we see something that has been lost by our neighbor then we pick it up and return it. Moshe re-iterates that human relationships can either be holy, between a husband and wife and between parents and children or unholy by crossing the boundaries of those relationships. Moshe reminds the people that children will not be punished for the sins of their parents, nor will parents be punished as a result of their children. In such a situation there would be no need to add punishment since the parents of the child or the children of the parent would be punished enough just having been touch by the situation. Essentially this morning’s Parsha is all about human relationships designed to maintain individual holiness as well as communal holiness.

So it is troubling that we are confronted with one of the most controversial commandments of the Torah. Ki Yiheyeh L’Ish Bein Sorer U’Moreh Einenu Shomeiah B’kol Aviv U’vkol Imo, If a man will have a wayward and rebellious son, who does not hearken to the voice of his father and the voice of his mother V’Yisru Oto v’Lo Yishmah Aleihem and they discipline him, but he does not hearken to them, then his father and mother shall grasp him and take him out to the elders of his city and the gate of his place. They shall say to the elders of the city, B’Neinu Zeh Sorer U Moreh “This son of ours is wayward and rebellious, he does not hearken to our voice; he is a glutton and a drunkard.” All the men of his city shall pelt him with stones and he shall die;  U’viarta HaRah Mikirbecha and you shall remove the evil from your midst (Deut. 21:18-21). The literal meaning of the verses suggests that in the extreme case of an evil child who is beyond help and clings to evil the way the rest of the community clings to holiness, such a child must be eliminated. First, we should all recognize the fact that Moshe’s presentation of the “Rebellious Child” is theoretical. The Talmud makes the point that “there never was nor will there ever be” a child to be put to death based upon this law. If, as the sages explain, that “there never was nor will there ever be a child put to death base upon this law” then the why is here in the Torah.  Some of the commentators suggest that it is an implied primer for child-rearing and inculcating the child with the parents’ values. That means that the parents need to have a common consistent voice when teaching values. They must minimize any contradiction when it comes to making decisions, and transmitting values.  The “rebellious son”, therefore, is an illustration of what can happen when parents are inconsistent. For Moses, the case occurs when a man has a child by the wife whom he doesn’t love as opposed to the wife whom he does love. We saw it with Jacob. He favored the son’s that were born to him by his beloved Rachel.

In the great scheme of things, a second ear piercing is no big deal. Personally, I had no problem with it. I explained that my hesitancy was a result of making sure that Mom was on board. I explained that if the ear piercing is about a child’s rebellion, then I suggested that a real rebellion would be to go and do without seeking permission but rather present it as a fait accompli. If the ear piercing is just about getting a second piercing, then I suggested she ought to inform her mother like she informed me. Because mom didn’t know about our daughter’s plan on that day,  I told her that I couldn’t take her without her Mom being informed and without Mom afforded the opportunity to say her piece. I chuckled again and this time my daughter told me that she was glad that I had mellowed enough that there were far more serious child rebellions than a second ear piercing.

Peace,

Rav Yitz

Where The Angels Fear To Tread, Till You Are Torn Apart (Robert Hunter & Jerry Garcia - "Foolish Heart")

Our house is very quiet. My wife and three teenage children are at summer camp. Our eldest daughter continues to reside in Boston, working on a Presidential campaign. As my wife and kids were packing and shopping, packing some more, then finally loading the car and leaving; I became more and more anxious and remained so until they arrived safely at camp. The days of packing and shopping were followed by dinner, packing and cleaning up their respective bedrooms. The nights were filled with my daughters requesting use of the car in order to go out with friends.  The requests for the car began around 930/10pm and continue until 11 pm. The request wasn’t so extraordinary; they wanted to borrow the car in order to “go see friends”. The funny thing about this car borrowing business, my wife tends to be much more amenable about it than me. Our daughters would go out and my wife goes to sleep, however, I stay awake. I wait to hear when they arrive at their destination and I text them to make sure that they are preparing to return home. Not only do I stay awake, but I am truly fearful. So when my teenage daughters would ask me about using the car at ridiculously late hours, just days prior to their scheduled departure for camp; I always hesitated. I shared my fear and anxiety with them. As the departure date grew nearer, I also became concerned that something would happen to the car and then my wife wouldn’t have a car. With each request for the car, there was the standard amount of fear and anxiety roiling through my stomach, increasing tension between my concerns and fears and my daughters’ wants and sense of freedom. I considered it a small blessing if they acquiesced to my anxiety and fear and allowed me to drive. Needless to say, I was thoroughly exhausted leading up to their departure

This week we read from Parsha Chukkat. This Shabbat we read from Parsha Chukkat. Chukkat begins by telling us the Law for the Red Heifer. The Priest who prepares the mixture of water and the Red Heifers burnt ashes will render the entire nation spiritually pure; but the mixture will render him impure. A brief narrative concerning the death of Miriam, the lack of water and B’nai Yisroel’s resulting anxiety and lack of faith leads to the issuance of another test of faith in the Wilderness. Moshe and Aaron don’t know what to do; so God tells them to speak water will spring forth. Instead of following instructions, Moshe succumbed to his anger and hit the rock with his staff. Indeed water came out, the people drank, but Moshe and Aharon were punished. Aharon died and Moshe learned that he would not be able to enter into Eretz Canaan. As B’nai Yisroel resumes its wandering, they are attacked by Amalek. As a result, B’nai Yisroel is forced to go around the heart of Amalek territory. The people complain to Moshe again. They try to seek permission from the Sihon, the King of the Amorites, to pass through Amorite territory. Sihon denies permission and B’nai Yisroel attacks and eventually defeats the Amorites. Og King of Bashan tries to prevent B’nai Yisroel from marching through his land, B’nai Yisroel, with the help of Hashem, defeat King Og and his army.  The Parsha concludes with B’nai Yisroel settling on the Plains of Moab on the eastern side of the Jordan poised to enter into Canaan.

                Towards the end of the Parsha, Moshe and B’nai Yisroel, now consisting mostly of a population that never experienced slavery first hand, fought and battled against several of the indigenous tribes.  By this point, Mosh’s sister had passed away as well as his brother Aharon. Really, the only people that the Torah records as adult slaves in Egypt, who left Egypt, who crossed the Reed Sea, who stood at Sinai, who had been attacked by the Amalekites, who, like Moshe dealt with the negative report from 10 of the 12 spies were the two spies who offered a positive report: Joshua and Caleb.  Moshe is indeed the elder. After defeating the Sihon king of the Amorites Moshe and B’nai Yisroel turn north. Vayifnu V’Yaalu Derech HaBashan And they turned and went up by the way of Bashan Vayeitze Og Melech HaBashan Likratam Hu V’ Chol Amo Lamilchama Edrei And Og the king of Bashan went out against them, he and all his people to the battle at Edrei. Vayomer HaShem El Moshe, Al Tirah Oto  - And God said to Moses “Fear him not”. (Num. 21:33-34). Clearly, if God is telling Moshe to refrain from feeling scared, then obviously God is aware that Moshe is fearful.  Until this moment, at no point have we been told that Moshe is scared or that God instructs him “Not to be scared”. Yes, Moshe has been frustrated, aggravated, angry with his people and even concerned that he won’t be able to do the job. He wasn’t scared of Pharoah when Pharoah grew angry, he wasn’t scared of God when God grew angry. Why now?  Moshe had already been told that he would not be permitted to bring B’nai Yisroel into Canaan. Moshe knows that soon, his mission will conclude. He has just buried his sister and his brother. He must feel incredibly mortal. Sensing his own mortality, he is more anxious and fearful of the risks and challenges that he and his people face. However, Moshe's fear  "of him" might not necessarily be directed at Og of Bashan.  We could understand “Oto” as “it”, fearful of "it"; as in the remainder of the process, the process of entry in Canaan. We could understand the “it”, as the remaining time Moshe has to complete his part of the mission or whatever else that may cause an elderly person anxiety about and fear for his children, grandchildren, and descendants.

                 Now that my wife and kids are in camp, and everyone is where they are supposed to be; at least as far, as I know, I sleep great. I don’t worry about my kids taking the car so late at night. I don’t worry about their running out to visit their friends. They are at camp with their friends.  However, I still find things to worry about, be anxious about, and sometimes fear for my children. Late last there was an earthquake in Southern California and there have been hundreds of aftershocks since then, and one aftershock even registered a 7.1 on the Richter scale. Any guesses regarding where our son has been (along with his unit from camp) this past week? That’s right. He has spent the week in L.A. I spoke to him before he boarded the plane and specifically told him to let me know when he arrives. I’m still waiting anxiously to hear from him even though I know that he and his group are perfectly safe. I guess being a parent means living with a certain amount of fear and anxiety.

Peace,

Rav Yitz

That A Man Can Be As Poor As Me (Robert Hunter & Jerry Garcia - "Black Peter"

          Our sixteen-year-old daughter has been in Israel for the past 5 weeks. She is scheduled to return early next week. Because of cell phones and WhatsApp, we have communicated with her quite frequently, she has spoken to us, video phoned us, and texted us. She has sent us pictures of nearly everywhere she has traveled throughout Israel. She has been to Israel on numerous occasions so she is rarely surprised by what she sees. She spent last Shabbat in Jerusalem. When we spoke to her, she commented that she is always overwhelmed by the poverty she sees, the number of beggars, and certainly the numerous women begging, pleading, and asking for money in order get their food for Shabbat. Our daughter is astute enough to notice the shopping bags full of change that the women outside the Kotel (Western Wall) have while they continue to ask for more. She appreciates the irony that when she gave a few shekels to a woman, the woman incredulously returned the shekels to our daughter. However, our daughter explained that she felt a tinge dismay; that something seemed so wrong. Here she was at the Judaism’s most holy site, and economic poverty surrounded this source of spiritual light and holiness. It seemed, to her, counterintuitive and she wondered how these two images co-existed.

This week's Parsha is Re'eh. Moshe continues his discourse. He has already explained the Mitzvot, and he continues to do that. Moshe has alluded to the blessings of life if B'nai Yisroel follows God's commandments. He has and continues to allude to the curses that will befall B'nai Yisroel if they violate the most important commandment-idolatry. "See I present before you today a blessing and a curse" (Deut.11:26). V'haklalah Im Lo Tishm'u el Mitzvot Adonai Eloheichem V'sartem Min Ha'Derech Asher Anochi M'taveh Etchem Ha'yom La'lechet Acharei Elohim Acheirim Asher Lo Y'Datem-"And the curse: if you do not hearken to the commandments of the Lord your God, and you stray from the path that I command you today, to follow gods of others, that you did know." (Deut. 11:28) Moshe presents B'nai Yisroel with two pictures, a world when B'nai Yisroel lives up to its covenant with God and one in which they don't.  He reminds Bnai Yisroel of the sanctity of Eretz Yisroel (the Land of Israel), the consumption of foods that are consecrated to the Kohanim and he warns Bnai Yisroel to avoid imitating the Rituals and Rites of the Egyptians and the Canaanites. Moshe reminds Bnai Yisroel to be careful of false prophets, avoiding non-kosher foods, not living in wayward cities, forgiving loans after seven years, caring for the less fortunate and celebrating the three pilgrimage festivals of Pesach, Shavuot, and Sukkot.

During the course of his warning Bnai Yisroel of the dangers of not following the Torah and exhorting them to observe the Torah, Moshe makes a simple if not stunning admission regarding the reality of our physical existence. Ki Lo Yechdal Evyon Mikerev Ha'Aretz -For destitute people will not cease to exist within the Land, therefore I command you saying, 'You shall surely open your hand to your brother, to your poor, and to your destitute in your land" (Deut 15:11). The Torah may be many things, but spiritually unrealistic is not one of them. Judaism recognizes human reality and weakness as well as the importance of empathy. Focusing upon the word “brother”, Rashi (the great 11^th Century French commentator) explains that if someone fails to empathize with his brother’s poverty; there may come a point when he joins his brother in poverty. For Rashi, there is little that separates the impoverished brother and the well-off brother, and as a result, the well-off brother must be able to see himself in the impoverished brother.

We know there will always be those less fortunate.  Whether "less fortunate" is a physical, emotional, spiritual, economic, or intellectual not everyone is as fortunate as the next person. We learn that tzuris is part of life and it transcends gender, age, and color and nationality. Moshe recognizes that in our zeal to make the world better, in our zeal to do Tikkun Olam (fix the world) we may grow dismayed and even beaten down because there is so much suffering.  Moshe reminds us that we are not obligated to do the impossible and eliminate the condition of poverty. Instead, our job is to contribute to the solution, by extending oneself to one who is less fortunate. Our sixteen year old understood the message.  The Kotel and what it symbolizes is an ideal, a utopia perhaps. The poverty that seemingly surrounds the Kotel manifest in all those beggars reminds the rest of us that we need to continually strive towards that ideal, towards that utopia. Rather than be overwhelmed our daughter realized that these two disparate images were empowered her to engage in acts of Chesed (Kindness) and Tzedaka (Charity) throughout her life.

Peace

Rav Yitz

Hang It Up And See What Tomorrow Brings; Other Times I Can Barely See (Robert Hunter, Phil Lesh, Bob Weir,& Jerry Garcia - "Truckin'")

My wife and kids were in San Francisco last week. Upon their return, my wife expressed exasperation with our son and getting him to put on Tefillin and pray in the morning. I chuckled, and I told her to start by leaving him alone and not hock him. Putting on Tefillin and praying should not sound like and receive the same visceral feeling as being told to do homework or clean up one’s room.  So my wife said she wouldn’t hock him. Then I spoke to our son about it. He explained that he puts on Tefillin, he prays and quite often he feels nothing.  He explained that he has been taught how he should feel when he puts on Tefillin and when he prays, that if he doesn’t feel that way, he thinks maybe he doesn’t believe. Clearly he was upset telling me this because he was afraid that I would be upset. I laughed and explain that I don’t always believe, certainly I didn’t when I was 13. I didn’t really start believing until I became a parent. We talked, and I explained that maybe he should stop listening to everyone tell him how he is supposed to feel and instead focus upon an activity, a moment, something that will give him a sense of God’s presence. Maybe such a “revelation” occurs at sunrise, or sunset. Maybe it occurs when studying something difficult and ultimately understanding it. Maybe it occurs during a moment of sublime peace like sharing a moment with a loved one. Regarding the last possibility, I asked if he planned to cuddle with me and watch the college championship football game between The University of Georgia and the University of Alabama.

This week we read from Parsha Va’Eira. In this Parshah, God reassures Moshe after Pharaoh mocked and dismissed both he and Aharon. God explains that he will cause Pharaoh’s heart to harden after each plague, but eventually Pharaoh will capitulate and free the Hebrew slaves. God explains the various stages of redemption to Moshe. The plagues begin. We are supposed to understand that each of these first seven plagues is more severe than the previous plague: Blood, Frogs, Lice, Wild Beasts, Animal plague, Boils, Hail. Moshe requests that Pharaoh permit B’nai Yisroel to worship God for three days. At times, Pharaoh acquiesces and there are moments he changes his mind. Sometimes he asks Moshe to pray on his behalf and sometimes he doesn’t. One thing is clear, that whenever Pharaoh gets his way (a plague ceases), something that would clearly indicate the power of God, Pharaoh behaves like a petulant child. He returns to his arrogant self-centered nature. It seems that Pharaoh is operating under an alternative set of facts regarding Hashem’s authority and power. By the Parsha’s conclusion, the plague of Hail has devastated the land and killed anything that was outside, Pharaoh expresses the evolution of his belief system based upon facts, not alternative facts nor upon an incorrect interpretation facts.

Two men, Moshe and Pharaoh, two groups, Hebrew slaves and Egyptian task masters, experience a type of revelation. Moshe is told by God, “Ani Adoshem VaEira el Avraham El Yitzchak v’ El Yaakov B’Eil Shaddai U’Shmi Adoshem Lo Nodati LaHem – I am Hashem, I appeared to Abraham, to Isaac, and to Jacob as El Shaddai, but with My Name Hashem, I did not make Myself known to them (Ex. 6:2) With Signs and Wonders, God wanted Moshe and B’nai Yisroel to know exactly who God is.  V’Yadu Mitzrayim Ki Ani Adoshem, BinToti et Yadi Al Mitzrayim V’Hotzeiti et Bnai Yisroel MiTocham – And Egypt Shall know that I am Hashem, when I stretch out My hand over Egypt; and I shall take the Children of Israel out from among them (Ex. 7:5). With each ensuing plague, God wanted Pharaoh and Egypt to know and accept, as fact, of God’ existence and God’s authority.  What is being transmitted? Ani Adoshem – I am Hashem, the fact that Hashem exists and has a covenantal relationship with his people.  How is this fact transmitted? Vaiera – I appeared through signs and wonders or as a harbinger of plagues. It depends who is experiencing the appearance and how that experience is perceive. For the Egyptians, God displays God’s presence through plagues. For Bnai Yisroel, God displays God’s presence through signs and wonders. That is to say each interprets Gods presence according to their values, their perceptions, their world view and their place within the world.

Clearly God made himself known to Abraham Isaac and Jacob. However that revelation was not in the same capacity as it was with Moshe Rabeinu. Clearly Pharaoh experienced a type of revelation as well. As my daughter realized over the course of our discussion, we all experience some type revelatory experience. As he is beginning to find out, he needs to be open minded and open hearted about it. It may occur in a comfortable familiar manner, and it may occur in an unanticipated unfamiliar manner. As our son realized, not engaging in the activity guarantees that there will be no possibility of sensing God’s presence He smiled and realized that putting on Tefillin was just an activity that might allow for a possibility. I smiled back and reminded him that it’s the same as cuddling with your dad watching the ball game. Maybe the feeling of sublime peace and calm, that everything is right in the world at this moment is indeed, a revelatory experience.

               

Peace,

Rav Yitz