"Cat On A Tin Roof, Dogs In A Pile, Nothing Left To Do But Smile Smile Smile (Robert Hunter & Jerry Garcia - He's Gone)

          As we continue to watch the news out of Ukraine, the increased targeting of Ukrainian civilians, the exponential increase of refugees, our family has been in awe of the stories we hear about strangers helping these refugees. Recently we heard about a young boy who traveled alone from Kyiv to Slovenia. His mother had to remain behind in Kyiv to care for her sick mother. So she sent her son with a backpack, his passport, a cell phone, and a phone number of a family member written on the back of his hand. (New York Post March 7, 2022). Despite being alone and scared, and traveling 600 miles, everyone the boy encountered was greeted by his warm and friendly smile. Upon his arrival at that Ukraine/Slovakian border, the border patrol was also greeted with his warm and kind smile. As a result, the border patrol was all too happy to help him. They found the family members and the boy’s Slovakian family found him and picked him up. Needless to say, his mother was incredibly thankful that her son was now safe. 

          This Shabbat is known as Shabbat Zachor. It is the Shabbat that immediately precedes Purim. On this Shabbat,  we begin the third book of the Torah with the Parsha of the same name:  Vayikra.  B’reishit and Shmot are essentially a series of narratives about a family and ultimately an entire people. However, Sefer VaYikra (Leviticus) is presented in both a narrative format as well as a user manual for ritual sacrifices - KoRBonot. This “user manual” seems to be designed for the Kohanim since it was their job to make the ritual sacrifice on behalf of the B’nai Yisroel. The Parsha begins with the general rules for Korbonot, mainly that the animal in question, needs to be pure, that is to say, blemish-free. The Parsha lists the various categories of Korbonot. The underlying assumption of bringing a KoRBonot (an offering) was B’nai Yisroel’s desire to be near God, to connect with God. Even the word KoRBonot -  with the three-lettered root Ku-f Resh- Bet means “close in proximity”. These offerings were designed to allow the person to draw closer to God for the myriad of reasons that a person would want to be near God including thankfulness, forgiveness, joy/happiness, or doubt in the relationship.

          Even before God tells Moshe about all the commandments concerning KoRBonot, God does something very unique, something that God had never done before and could only do because of his relationship to Moshe Rabeinu. Vayikrah El Moshe, VaYidaber Adoshem Eilav M’Ohel Moed Leimor - He called out to Moshe and Hashem spoke to him from the Tent of the Meeting saying (Lev 1:1). God called, God spoke and God said; three very similar verbs yet slightly different when examined through the lens of “proximity” “intimacy” and “formality”. One calls out to a person when there is a physical distance that needs to be overcome, or when trying to get another person’s attention. Rashi, the great 11th-century French commentator, offers several explanations. First, this “calling” is Lashon Chiba - a language of endearment. God called out to Moshe in a loving manner and only to Moshe. No one else heard this particular call. Once called, Moshe knew to approach. After Moshe draws closer, God speaks to him. “Speaking” to someone assumes a relationship, a partnership, and a dialogue. The partnership might not be a 50/50 split and the dialogue might not be an equally two-sided dialogue, but “speaking” suggests that there is a response. However “telling” someone something suggests a clear delineation of authority. The party “telling” has the authority and the party being “told”  lacks authority. “Telling” suggests neither partnership nor dialogue but rather the dry transmission of data and information.  For the first time and the last time God Vayikra el Moshe - God called out to Moshe. God singled Moshe out for a vital task: to instruct the Kohanim and B’nai Yisroel how to appropriately connect to God. While it was certainly novel that God called, it was equally important that Moshe heard the call. Indeed, Moshe was spiritually sensitive and in tune with his relationship to God that he, and only he, heard the endearing call from God.

          Sometimes we are not able to hear so well. Maybe there is too much noise. Maybe we are so out of sorts that we can’t hear past our own fears, our own anxiety, or our own guilt. Sometimes we ignore God’s loud whisper that is meant only for us. So we will listen to God when we take a walk with our children. Sometimes, we sense God and holiness in the smile of a young boy and meet that smile, that warmth, and holiness with a simple act of kindness. Amid all of this we know that God is present, we need to only listen closely,  to the whisper, or experience a smile in order to connect.

Peace,
Rav Yitz

Call For Me And I Will Be There (Robert Hunter & Jerry Garcia - Lazy River Road")

           For the past few months, only our 16-year-old son has been living at home.  He will remain the only child in our home through Pesach and on into the middle of May. For his sake, one of his older sisters is scheduled to return.  Yes, there are moments when he enjoys being the only child. For example, he doesn’t have to battle his sisters for bathroom rights. On the other hand, he can’t get away with pawning off his chores onto anyone else. Certainly, he cannot get away with winning the “Ignoring Game”; a game that he quickly mastered while his sisters were home. The “Ignoring Game”  is a game that all children play with their parents and sometimes their grandparents.   I remember playing it with my parents when I was a teenager.  The game can be played at any time of day and under nearly any circumstance. The rules of the game are rather simple. The parent initiates play by calling out to the teenager with a simple request. Assuming that a sibling will actually respond, the teenager ignores the first request. The parent waits approximately 30 seconds before calling out to the teenager with the same request. Again, the teenager ignores the parent’s request, hoping the other sibling will respond. Now the parent waits 45-60 seconds before calling out for the same request. This time the request is louder, sterner, and more specific. “Hello, (child’s name), yeah I am talking to you” or “can you hear me (add child’s name)? I am talking to you.” Now the game changes slightly. The teenager needs to respond, and generally, the response involves a grunt, “Huh” or a question such as “what?” or a statement such as “Ok, ok, I heard you” or “Ok, I’ll do it in a minute”.  Keep in mind, that those statements are code for “I am ignoring you doing something else that I prefer to be doing rather than anything you request.” Now the game escalates. The parent needs to get the teenager’s attention and focus on the request. To accomplish this the parent still utilizes leverage however does so in a quiet disarming manner. At this point,  I try to close the physical distance by approaching them. If they are in their room, I will stand in their doorway. With as much calm as I can muster, I turn the request into a transaction. I rely on my inner Don Corleone and try to “make an offer they can’t refuse”. I try to speak quieter and in a colder more calculating tone. First I confirm that they will ultimately fulfill the request.  Then I make a business arrangement. I remind them that they will make requests of me and ask favours of me and it will become very difficult for me to fulfill their request and favours. We agree on a reasonable timeframe for my request to be fulfilled. With mutually agreed upon deterrents to prevent potential “forgetfulness”, I thank the teenager for fulfilling my request, and the “Ignoring Game” concludes.

           This Shabbat, we begin the third book of the Torah, Sefer Vayikra by reading from the Parsha with the same name VaYikrah. For all of Bereishit (Genesis) and the first half of Shmot (Exodus), we read narratives. In the Second half of Shmot, we read the blueprints of and then the actual construction of the Mishkan – the portable worship station that would accompany Bnai Yisroel on their journey towards Eretz Yisroel. Now the Torah takes a break from narrative and construction. We begin reading the various types of offerings that Kohen Gadol, the High Priest, will make on our behalf. These offerings were the various means by which  God permitted the individual or the community to approach. We approach Hashem for a variety of reasons, including special occasions and for personal reasons: repentance, thanksgiving, and special occasions for communal reasons: seasonal festivals, or daily service.

           We are familiar with the language that usually appears when Hashem speaks to Moshe. VaYomer Adoshem el Moshe Leimor – Hashem said to Moshe saying, or VaYiDaBeR Adoshem El Moshe Leimor – And Hashem spoke to Moshe saying. Now for the first and perhaps only time, Hashem neither ‘says’ nor “speaks” to Moshe. Instead, we read   Vayikrah el Moshe -God called to Moshe (Lev 1:1). ” Imagine, God, calling out to a person before speaking? The word “VaYiKRa” ends with a letter that is in a smaller font size than the rest of the letters that are found in the Torah. So clearly, this type of VaYiKRa is different than the typical kind of VaYiKRA with all the letters being the same size. Rashi, the 11th-century French vintner and commentator, explains that God speaks in a loud booming voice; a voice that can shatter trees and be heard throughout the world. However, this VaYiKRa, was only heard by Moshe. The calling was done so in a loving manner. The diminutive final letter – Aleph; suggests two possibilities.  First, Hashem whispered Moshe’s name in a manner that only Moshe could hear. Second, Moshe was humble enough, as symbolized by the diminutive letter, that his soul was receptive to God’s calling. The result of which Moshe quickly and eagerly responded with Hinneni –“Here I am”.

      I can’t imagine Moshe ignoring God’s call. I can’t imagine Moshe saying, “I’ll be there in a minute” and not showing up. On those rare occasions when our son doesn’t feel like playing the “Ignoring Game”, but instead, immediately responds to my call; he always seems surprised that I am nicer and easier going. He even displays surprise because my request seems neither overbearing nor unreasonable. He even thinks that I am in a good mood. Usually, his immediate response elicits a smile from me or I will tell him that I “appreciate” it. I remind him that no one likes being ignored. On more than one occasion, he has sheepishly smiled and told me that it is especially hard to ignore when he is the only child in the house.

Peace,

Rav Yitz

Call For Me And I WIll Be There (Robert Hunter & Jerry Garcia - "Lazy River Road")

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          Like everyone, we have remained mostly confined to our home. Our three children who are home go outside and take walks. I go to the office to pick up books. Running “errands” are infrequent and confined to Passover and essentials. Indeed the world has become a frightening place that seems quite arbitrary. Some people get infected some don’t. Some have symptoms and some are asymptomatic. Some will survive and sadly many have passed away. With our daughter in Boston and our older parents “sheltering in place” in San Francisco and Rochester, NY, with our sisters, brothers in law and nieces and nephew in Los Angeles and New York; we are all filled with anxiety We all make a concerted effort to speak to each other, to check-in, to connect. Among the casualties of this “new normal” has been our ability to connect to God. We no longer connect to God a minyan, we daven by ourselves. We no longer connect to God when we see grandparents, extended family or friends gathered together for Shabbat meals, we Facetime, Whatsapp, Skype or Zoom. We no longer sense God amid the joy of dancing at a wedding or consoling each other with a hug during times of sorrow. We make a phone call, we send an email and we watch from afar. So we are left to listen for God, sense God’s presence, and connect to God in different ways.

          This Shabbat, we begin the third book of the Torah with the Parsha of the same name, Vayikra, otherwise known as Leviticus. B’reishit and Shmot are essentially a series of narratives about a family and ultimately an entire people. However, Sefer VaYikra is presented in both a narrative format as well as a user manual for ritual sacrifices - KoRBonot. This “user manual” seems to be designed for the Kohanim since it was their job to make the ritual sacrifice on behalf of the B’nai Yisroel. Since one of the most important issues in making KoRBonot is ritual purity. Ritual purity extends to three aspects of the Korbonot process, the person making the KoRBon -the Kohen; the Korbon itself, and the person bringing the KoRBon-everyone who was not a kohen. The Parsha begins with the general rules for Korbonot, mainly that the animal in question, needs to be pure, that is to say, blemish-free. The Parsha lists the various categories of Korbonot to beginning with the Oleh Offering, an offering completely for God. The offering was completely consumed by God and its purpose was to create a means for a person to connect to God for no reason except out of a desire to do so. Other offerings have distinct purposes such as the Sin-offering (seeking forgiveness), and Peace offering (showing a deep love of God), the Guilt offering (in case one has doubt about doing something wrong). Included in each of the categories of offerings was a list of animals to be offered as well as what was to be cooked completely and left for God, what was cooked and left for the Kohen, and what was cooked and to be shared with the community. Operating beneath the institution of KoRBonot was B’nai Yisroel’s desire to be near God, to connect with God. Even the word KoRBonot - with the three-lettered root Ku-f Resh- Bet means “close in proximity”. These offerings were designed to allow the person to draw closer to God for the myriad of reasons that a person would want to be near God including: thankfulness, forgiveness, joy/happiness, or doubt in the relationship. Following the fiasco of the Golden Calf, B’nai Yisroel required an acceptable format so that they could connect to God, they required a means that when they heard God, they could offer an appropriate response.

          Even before God tells Moshe about all the commandments concerning KoRBonot, God does something very unique, something that God had never done before and could only do because of his relationship to Moshe Rabeinu. Vayikrah El Moshe, VaYidaber Adoshem Eilav M’Ohel Moed Leimor - He called out to Moshe and Hashem spoke to him from the Tent of the Meeting saying (Lev 1:1). God called, God spoke and God said; three very similar verbs yet slightly different when examined through the lens of “proximity” “intimacy” and “formality”. One calls out to a person when there is a physical distance that needs to be overcome, or when trying to get another person’s attention. Rashi, the great 11th-century French commentator, offers several explanations. First, this “calling” is Lashon Chiba - a language of endearment. God called out to Moshe in a loving manner and only to Moshe. No one else heard this particular call. Once called, Moshe knew to approach. After Moshe draws closer, God speaks to him. “Speaking” to someone assumes a relationship, a partnership, and a dialogue. The partnership might not be a 50/50 split and the dialogue might not be an equally two-sided dialogue, but “speaking” suggests that there is a response. However “telling” someone something suggests a clear delineation of authority. The party “telling” has the authority and the person to the listening lacks authority. “Telling” suggests neither partnership nor dialogue but rather the dry transmission of data and information. For the first time and the last time God Vayikra el Moshe - God called out to Moshe. God singled Moshe out for a vital task: to instruct the Kohanim and B’nai Yisroel how to appropriately connect to God. While it was certainly novel that God called, it was equally important that Moshe heard the call. Indeed, Moshe was spiritually sensitive and in tune with his relationship to God that he, and only he, herd the endearing call from God.

          Sometimes we are not able to hear so well. Maybe there is too much noise. Maybe we are so out sorts that we can’t hear past our own fears, our own anxiety, or our own guilt. Sometimes we ignore God’s loud whisper that is meant only for us. So we will listen to God when we take a walk with our children. We sense God when we watch a wedding occur outside on the neighbor’s front lawn. Maybe God calls out to us when we take a moment and reconnect with friends through a Zoom party. Maybe we sense God by being a little more considerate of everyone in the house, by pitching in, by engaging in one more act of Kindness than the day before. Amid all of this we know that God is present, we need to only listen closely to the whisper in order to connect.

Peace,
Rav Yitz