I Hear The Cries Of Children; And Other Songs Of War (Robert Hunter & Jerry Garcia - "Standing On The Moon")

          This should be a time of year when parents take stock of their child's academic accomplishments. School is drawing to its inevitable conclusion and numerous elementary school, middle school, high school, and university students have "step-up" ceremonies as they move from one grade to the next, or graduate. As my family and millions of other families prepared to celebrate this type of transition, we all experienced deja vu all over again. Sandy Hook, Parkland, and now this week the Robb Elementary School in Uvalde, Texas was the sight of another mass school shooting where 19 children, 1st, 2nd, and 3rd graders were killed. Nineteen families, who like millions of others, were preparing for their children to "step up" to celebrate a transition of learning, tragically must now mourn the ultimate transition. Of course, this could have been avoided, of course, society can do things that minimize the possibility of this kind of tragedy. As the days and weeks go by, and the discussion of Uvalde occurs, it will be fascinating to listen and watch, once again, the handwringing, the call to "pray for the victims and their families", the insistence that nothing would have stopped the shooter from the heinous act he perpetrated, or "guns don't kill people - people kill people" or "the best way to stop a bad guy with a gun is to make sure that a good guy has a gun". Some people might believe the boiler plate statements. Many will not. Some won't believe it at all, but they will say it over and over again. These are cynical people who want the status quo. These are cynical people who treat the lives of children cavalierly, they treat the law and the Constitution that they were sworn to uphold and protect cavalierly. They tread their elected position as legislators cavalierly. 

          This Shabbat we read from Parsha Bechukotai. It is the final Parsha of the Book of Leviticus. For the past ten Parshiot, Sefer Vayikra, the Book of Leviticus, has taught us how to act in a holy manner. We have learned how to behave towards God in a holy manner. We have been taught how to treat members of our family in a holy manner. We have been taught how to treat people outside of our family, friends, acquaintances, employees, and the needy in a holy manner as well. We have been given tools by which we are able to approach God in a sanctified way. We have been given tools to sanctify the seasons and the land of Israel. Finally, here in the last Parsha, we are told the reward as well as the punishment if we fail to learn and observe these commandments. The reward is quite simple and straightforward.  Im B’Chukotai Teileichu v’Et Mitzvotai Tishmeru Va’Asitem Otam V’Natati Gishmeichem B’Itam V’Natna Ha’Aretz Y’Vulah V’Eitz Ha’Sadeh Yiten Piryo – If you follow my decrees and observe my commandments and perform them; then I will provide you with rains in their time, and the land will give its produce and the tree of the field will give its fruit. (Lev. 26:3-4). Ultimately our reward is predicated upon fulfilling the commandments.

          The punishment is neither simple nor straightforward. Normally one would think that merely our failure to observe and fulfill the commandment would be reason enough for punishment. However, this is not the case. Our punishment is a result of something worse than our failure to observe and fulfill these commandments.  V’Im Lo Tishme’u Li, V’Lo Ta’asu Eit Kol HaMitzvot Ha’Eila – If you will not listen to me (obey) and will not perform all of these commandments; V’Im B’Chukotai Timasu V’Im Et Mishpatai Tigal Nafshechem – if you consider my Decrees loathsome, and if your being rejects My ordinances (Lev. 26: 14-15) then we receive punishment. There are a series of seven sets of punishments and after each set; we are given an opportunity for Tshuvah, for Repentance. If, after each set of punishments, we continue to ignore God, then we receive another set of punishments. The Torah keeps repeating a phrase that seems far more powerful than “ignoring” God. V’Halachtem Imi B’Keri and if you behave towards Me cavalierly. The result of continued cavalier behaviour will bring the next series of punishments. It could be argued that our divine punishment results from our lack of passion, our lack of care and concern for our role and responsibility in our relationship with God.

          Torah is teaching us a valuable lesson about life. Life is sacred. The relationships that we make can and should be sacred: not only with our husbands and wives and our children but with God as well. Life is not something to be treated cavalierly and with disdain. Yet as my children and I continue watching the heartbreaking news that comes out of Uvalde, Texas, and that came out of Buffalo, NY the two weeks before, as we look back at other school shootings, church shootings, synagogue shootings, the words that are spoken afterward seem empty, vapid, cynical and cavalier. My children find it difficult to see those elected officials as anything but empty suits with no soul. For if they had a soul, they could not continue to remain cynical and cavalier about another school shooting, another mass shooting at a supermarket, church, or synagogue. Perhaps it is the sin of treating the electorate cavalierly and disdainfully that allows this tragedy to happen again and again. It's time to stop permitting these people from treating human life cavalierly and disdainfully. 

Peace,
Rav Yitz

Standing On The Moon, Where Talk Is Cheap And Vision True (Robert Hunter & Jerry Garcia - "Standing On The Moon")

           Maybe it’s me, but I think that elected officials should only use social media when they are being “social”. Using social media to introduce a new policy, to emote, gloat, complain, chastise,  intimidate, slander, fire, or make public pronouncements without the scrutiny of the non-fake, non-conspiracy-oriented news media places too much emphasis on the “media” and not enough emphasis on the “social”.  If an elected official would like to use social media to be “social”, to show us social aspects of his/her life, funny incidents that occurred, a cute family picture with greater emphasis upon the “social” of “social media” then,  by all means, use social media. With a greater emphasis upon the “social”, the elected official appears like the rest of us, more approachable and ordinary.  With a greater emphasis upon “Media”, the elected official creates a more toxic and dangerous way to govern and a more toxic and dangerous way to exercise authority. By placing a greater emphasis upon the “Media” and not the “Social” the elected official demeans the office,  violates the public trust, corrupts the nature of being a public service, and indicates a shortcoming in character and public discourse.

This week’s Torah portion is VaYigash.  The confrontation between Yosef and his brothers is about to occur. The Parshah begins with Yehudah approaching his brother Yosef, whom he does not recognize, and pleads for Benjamin’s freedom.  Yosef reveals his identity, and the brothers hug and kiss each other. They cry and they forgive each other. Yosef asks about his father’s welfare. The brothers return to their father, Yaakov, and tell him that Yosef is alive. The brothers add that everyone, the entire clan, should go down to Egypt. So this clan, including Jacob, the brothers, their wives, and children, heads down to Egypt. Yaakov meets Pharaoh. Yosef’s family is given a parcel of land outside of Egypt in a place called Goshen, where they can tend to their flocks. Yaakov is reunited with his beloved Yosef in the land of Goshen.

For the ChaZaL, the Talmudic Sages of Blessed Memory,  the confrontation between Yosef, the second most powerful man in Egypt, and Yehudah, the leader of Yaakov’s sons; represents something much more than just two brothers meeting up after a couple of decades. For ChaZaL, the word VaYiGaSh refers to Yehudah girding himself for war. Remember, Yehudah does not yet know the identity of the man standing before him. For all Yehudah knows, this man, who looks Egyptian, dresses Egyptian, and speaks Egyptian embodies the most powerful empire and the most dominant culture in the world. However, according to the Or HaChayim, the 18th-century Morrocan commentator, suggests that “girding for war” is not the plain meaning of the word VaYiGaSh. Rather the Or HaChayim explains that if Yehudah was “girding himself for war” then he would not have spoken so respectfully and politely to Yosef: Bi Adoni “if it pleases my lord”. Nor would Yehudah be concerned with publicly antagonizing Yosef’s anger. Instead, Yehuda directly approaches Egypt’s Second Command,  bypassing his guards and advisors, and manages to speak quietly and privately into the minister’s ear. Make no mistake, when Yehudah tells the minister that Pharoah’s Second in Command is just like Pharaoh, it is meant as an indictment and insult. Indeed, Yehuda speaks truth to power; he does so in a whisper, privately, without causing embarrassment to the second most powerful man in the Egyptian empire. Yehudah’s approached Yosef so as not to publicly embarrass or anger him for several reasons. First, he felt a deep sense of responsibility for his brother Benjamin. Second, he felt a deep sense of responsibility and commitment to his father.  So Yehuda felt obligated and compelled to approach Yosef, however, he could not approach in a meek subservient manner. Third, he felt a deep sense of respect for the power and authority of the man standing before him and what that man represented.  As a result, Yehudah had to project the perfect blend of strength and humility. He had to speak politely yet forcefully. Most of all he had to make sure that he wouldn’t embarrass the second most powerful man in the Egyptian empire. Only after this confrontation was Yosef able to reveal himself, and his character to the brothers.  Only then could he reveal the fact that he had no desire for retribution, no animosity but rather only joy, relief, and concern.

Character, both individual and national manifests in a myriad of ways. In today’s day and age,  Character is routinely revealed in the public discourse on social media. However, more often than not, we learn more about the character of the person that posts, than the subject matter or the person about whom the poster posts. Indeed, the tension and the confrontation between Yehuda and Yosef, as perceived by the Sages to demonstrate the mystical tension between Israel and Egypt. This tension quickly dissipated once Yosef revealed his identity. Only by revealing his identity and making himself vulnerable; was Joseph able to show the content of his character, the contentment in his soul rather than a desire for retribution. Yehuda confronted Yosef, prior to announcing his identity, in a private quiet manner. Yosef revealed his identity to his brothers only when they were alone. Imagine what social discourse, cancel culture and public shaming would look like if Yehuda was more publicly demonstrative and putting greater emphasis upon the ”social” instead of the “media”.

Peace,

Rav Yitz

Standing On The Moon, Where Talk Is Cheap And Vision True (Robert Hunter & Jerry Garcia - "Standing On The Moon")

For the past few months, as our Canadian friends watch coverage of the Presidential Campaign, and, needless to say they can’t believe what they watch and what they hear. Forget trying to explain primaries, delegates, conventions or anything else. They are amazed by what comes out of the candidates’ mouth. They are amazed at the personal insults that are hurled back and forth. Our children, since they are the “resident Americans” in the school also are frequently asked by their friends about the Presidential campaign, about Trump, Cruz, Sanders and Clinton and all the insults and all the hyperbole and all the gossip, rumor and hearsay that is bandied about in the respective campaigns. Admittedly, it is rather embarrassing to listen to what these people say about each other, or in the case of Trump and Cruz, what they say about each other’s wives. Theoretically it is important to discuss differences in policy, judgment and temperament.   As the candidates campaign just across Lake Ontario in New York State, unfortunately the reality is very different. Rather than an intelligent discussion, we are exposed to gossip, rumors, half- truths hyperbole and Lashon Hara. When asked about another candidate, we are told that they are unqualified, dangerous, threatens the fabric of life. A more novel approach would be for the candidate who is asked about another candidate to simply say “I don’t know”. Such an answer would demonstrated self-control, humility and probably a lot of wisdom.

This Shabbat we read from Parsha Metzorah. The discussion and laws for Tamei/ Tahor (Purity & Impurity) as it affects human beings is continued from last week’s Parsha, Tazria. We continue to learn intricate details concerning how an individual becomes ritually purified, his/her reentrance into the camp, and the prominent role of the Kohen Gadol in ascribing a spiritual treatment for a physical expression of a spiritual problem. Besides discussing the laws of the Metzorah, the laws of one who suffers from this skin ailment, the Parsha also confronts the issues of the Metzorah spreading to a house and the method by which that impurity is removed from the house. The second half of the Parsha concentrates on the laws of Taharah Mishpachah, the laws of family purity.

          When Tzaraat is discovered on an individual, he or she would go to the Kohen Gadol, the High Priest, and undergo and examination. However if the Tzaarat spreads beyond the individual and pollutes the home: U’Vah Asher Lo HaBayit V’Higid LaKohen Leimor- “K’Negah NiReH Li BaBayit” – And he that owns the house shall come and tell the priest saying: It seems to me there is as it were a plague in the house. (Lev. 14:35) Even if the individual sees the Tzaarat, sees the impurity, knows that it is Tzaarat, the individual cannot and must not say that “It is plague in the house,” but rather K’Negah literally “It is like a plague”. Rashi explains that “even if the individual is learned and has no doubt as to the nature of the plague, he must not utter a definitive judgment, but merely declare “it seems”.  On the surface Rashi’s comment appears to be focused upon the issue of “Purity and Impurity”, and reminding us that the authority to decide and declare Purity and Impurity rests solely upon the High Priest.  The Talmud in Tractate Brachot 4a teaches: I have learned from my Masters that the wording is not associated with the definition of purity and impurity. Rather, it serves as a moral lesson, i.e., even in the event of certainty about an impurity, one should declare it as doubtful. Thus our Sages have stated, “Teach your tongue to say ‘I do not know’ “. The MaHaRaL of Prague (Rabbi Yehuda Loew of Prague 1525-1609) takes the lesson a step further. “Since it is but the priest who establishes the Nega (the plague and its legal implications); he would not be speaking the truth.” If that individual is not speaking the truth, then he is speaking Lashon HaRa.

Here in this simple statement “K’Negah” –It seems to be a plague” is simplest and most effective way to deal with Lashon HaRa- acknowledge that we “don’t know” for sure, and that we are not necessarily as authoritative as we think we are.  While I realize a candidate saying “I don’t know” might indicate a sense of weakness or lack of knowledge; “I don’t know, ask the other guy” might also be a sign of empowerment. Rather than sinking to the level of the press, and contributing to an otherwise nasty environment, “I don’t know, ask the other guy”, suggests self-discipline, thoughtfulness, and a dignity that the office of the President deserves.

Peace,

Rav Yitz