Tuesday, March 22, 2016

Don't Waste Your Breath To Save Your Face When You Have Done Your Best (Robert Hunter & Jerry Garcia - "Built to Last")



           This week we watched as another terrorist attack rocked Europe, this time in Brussels. As our home had been preparing for Purim; I couldn’t help but acknowledge the commonly held view of the Talmudic Sages that there is Haman in every generation and there is Amalek in every generation. Part of our Purim preparations involve my wife organizing and making the Mishloach Manot, our kids loading the Mishloach Manot into cute boxes, and my delivering the Mishloach Manot. Amid the preparations, and our kitchen covered in Hamentashan dough, I was able to watch the various Presidential candidates speak at the AIPAC conference. In case the Jews who attended the conference, and those throughout the United States and Canada were unsure if Purim was actually scheduled for this week or not, several of the candidates were good enough to remind us. As I listened to the speeches and re-read their speeches, I can appreciate the reasons why many support Donald Trump. His rhetoric sounds very tough and very strong. We know that there are many who genuinely gravitated to people who appear strong, whose words are strong, who exude strength, and speak in a language that offers no apologies, takes no prisoners,  makes no excuses and “tells it like it is”. As a business man, Donald Trump’s political rhetoric is remarkably similar to his business negotiations. For the Donald, every deal is about demonstrating power absolute terms. This means that after he finishes negotiating, there is nothing left of the other side. For Trump, a negotiation is really about destroying the other side. This “Art of the Deal” was a very different negotiating style than the one I learned from my grandfather. For my grandfather, a negotiation was very rarely a demonstration in power. He knew he had plenty, rather it was to demonstrate the ability to withhold the use of power. For my grandfather, a negotiation was never about vanquishing the other side, instead he always made sure “leave something on the table” in order for the counterpart to “save face”. My grandfather made sure never to humiliate his counterpart because, as he explained to me, “you never knew when and if you might need a favor from him or if have the opportunity to do more business.” Many years ago, I once wrote my grandfather’s name as a write-in vote for a Presidential election. It’s pretty safe to say, I would never vote for Trump.
             This week we read from Parsha Tzav. In it we learn that the Kohanim are responsible for their own offerings as well as making offering on behalf of the people. God instructs Moshe to teach the Kohanim their responsibilities in slaughtering the offerings, cleaning up, what must be burnt, and what the Kohen may consume. After God completes the set of instructions specifically for the Kohanim, God then instructs Moshe as to B’nai Yisroel’s responsibilities as well. Finally God instructs Moshe to make the required preparations for the Kohen to assume his position among the people. This includes the bringing of sin offerings, achieving a certain spiritual mindset as well as learning how to make all the offerings.
            As the instructions are issued concerning each offering, there is a general patter. V’Zot Torat [name of offering] HakreivAnd this is the law of the meal offering (the peace offering, the feast offering etc.) However the Sin Offering breaks with the Parsha’s formula.  Zot Torat Ha’Chatat Bimkom Asher Tishacheit Ha’Olah Tishacheit HaChatat Lifnei Kodesh Kodashim HuThis is the law of the sin offering; in the place where the elevation offering is slaughtered shall the sin offering be slaughtered, before God, it is most Holy (Lev. 6:18). Why is this the only offering that designates a specific place that is exactly the same as another offering? If this offering to God is so important why wouldn’t the offering take place separate in its own time and in its own location? Precisely because it is so important, and this offering requires such sensitivity, we are extremely concerned. One makes the Sin Offering after an unintentional sin is committed. If someone points out a mistake that we make, our first response might be defensive, to make excuses. This is normal if we experience shame and embarrassment. However when we are not embarrassed, when we are not humiliated then it is much easier to admit to the sin, or the mistake and apologize in a humble manner. If the Sin Offering occurred in its own location, then everyone else would know that those people had sinned and were now making offering as a form of apology. People would talk and the individual bringing the offering would perhaps be too embarrassed to work on his/her relationship to God. This is tragic. So in order to preserve the individual’s dignity, the Torah provides anonymity. Someone looking on would never know if the individual making the offering is there with a sin offering or an elevation offering. Torah creates an environment to allow the individual be forthright, honest and still save face within the community.
            As we continue to listen to Trump’s rhetoric, as we continue to be told that “he loves Israel” and that he is great negotiator; I wonder how his rhetoric will play in  a part of the world that respects power as the well as the threat of power. I wonder how his rhetoric will play in a part of the world where tribes go to war when they feel as if they are humiliated and have lost face. I wonder if he can speak with the subtle nuance that is spoken between Israel, Egypt, and Saudi Arabia, a language that allows Israel to actually get along with several of her neighbors.
           

Peace,
Rav Yitz

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