Showing posts with label picking kids up from summer camp. Show all posts
Showing posts with label picking kids up from summer camp. Show all posts

Wednesday, August 24, 2016

Once We Grew Into Our Shoes, We Told Them Where To Go (Robert Hunter & Jerry Garcia - "Days Between")



I suppose my wife and I have acknowledged that summer is drawing to a close.  Yes, it still very hot in Toronto. Yes the public swimming pools are still open and full. However this past week, we took our annual drive down to the Pocono Mountains to pick our two youngest children from camp.  We always make sure to arrive after the campers taking the buses have departed. By the time we arrive, the staff and the staff’s children are all that remain. We say hello to some friends, and gather our children. They have already cried the good byes to their friends. By the time we arrive, they are just very tired but ready to leave. This time was no different. I parked the car, my wife ran out to find the children and say hello. I schlepped the duffle bags and loaded the car. When that was finished, I began walking towards the main office, where our children came to meet Mommy. From the distance, it seemed our son and daughter had grown.  They saw me and began running. Our fourteen year old tired ran with her long loping strides. She didn’t look any worse for wear, just tired. Later we found out that she hadn’t slept had been awake for more than 24 hours. Behind the fourteen year old daughter came our twelve year old son. He was running as well. However as he ran, I notice that something kept flapping near his foot which caused him to pay attention to where he place his foot. Some piece of red material was flapping. Now we had purchased a pair of red Nike sneakers prior to camp. When he finally arrived in my arms and we hugged, he took a step back from me and sheepishly smiled. The red material flapping oddly while our son ran towards me was his sneaker. It was torn practically from the sole. It was beyond repair and I asked what had happened. He explained that he tore it while rock climbing.  Seven weeks of camp and he had completely destroyed a new pair of sneakers. He also informed me that he threw away several pairs of pants because they no longer fit. Seven weeks of camp and he had grown enough that he had outgrown some of his clothing. 
This Shabbat we read from Parshat Eikev. This week’s Parsha is Eikev. Here in his second discourse, Moshe explains to the new generation how the second set of tablets that contain the Aseret Dibrot (Ten Commandments) came into being. He explains how God forgave their parents for their idolatrous behavior in regards to the Eigel Zahav (Golden Calf), Moshe explains that B’nai Yisroel’s essential task is to refrain from Idolatry, serve God, worship God, and the nation will be rewarded with water, grass and quality lives. Moshe also reminds B’nai Yisroel that they have nothing to fear when they enter into Canaan and conquer the land even though they maybe outnumbered. God has already, and will continue to protect his people. He did so during the Yetziat Mitzrayim (Exodus from Egypt). He did so when B’nai Yisroel defeated Og and Bashan. As long as B’nai Yisroel keeps its side of the Brit, God will continue to protect his people.
While Moshe recounts the experience at Mt Sinai, now known as Mt. Horeb, he explains that the misfortunes that befell B’nai Yisroel were L’Nastocha LD’aat et Asher Bilvavecha HaTishmor Mitzvotav Im Lotests , to know what is in you r heart whether you would observe His commandments or not (Deut. 8:2). While Moshe explains B’nai Yisroel’s recent history in terms of a Divine Test, he makes an odd statement as he cites some of the miracles that B’nai Yisroel may have overlooked or took for granted. Simlatcha lo Valtah Mei’Alecha, V’Raglecha Lo VaTzeika Zeh Arbaim Shana- Your garments did not wear out upon you and your foot did not swell these forty years (Deut.8:4). Forty years of living in the Wilderness and no one outgrew their clothing nor wore out their clothing or their sandals. Certainly their clothing and sandals were not made with the same high quality material as our son’s sneakers nor his denim jean (that he outgrew). Rashi, the great 11th century French commentator, offers an explanation base on a literal understanding of the verse. Anenei Kavod Hayu SHafin BichsutamThe Clouds of Glory would rub their clothes U’MGaHaTzim Otam- and press them, Kmin Keilim M’Guhatzimlike freshly pressed garments. V’Af Ketaneihem Kmo Hayu Gdeilim Haya Gadeil Levushan Imahemand their young too, as they would grow, their clothing grew with them, K’Lvush HaZeh shel Chomet Sh’Gdeil Imolike the clothing (shell) of a snail which grows with it. This is not the kind of miracle that one notices and has an awe inspiring moment. Rather this is the type of miracle that one becomes aware of after the fact. Maybe this type of miracle is imperceptible on a day to day basis but over the course of years and decades, looking back, one realizes what took place.  However a more figurative way to understand Moshe’s statement is that the clothes are God’s teachings, God’s commandments, the Torah. Torah, and Moshe’s teachings, by design, are supposed to grow with the person and never become old, worn out or obsolete.
I suppose Nike and Levis and all the other clothing and shoe manufacturers would hate the idea that clothing is synonymous with Torah. After all, Torah is designed to withstand time and space. Clothing manufacturers need children to outgrow their clothes and wear out their shoes. Otherwise there would be no need to buy more sneakers and jeans. I became very aware of this as I closely inspected by son’s shredded sneaker.  As we drove back to Toronto, we passed an outlet mall on the New York State Thruway and bought him another pair of sneaker. I know that his foot hasn’t stopped growing, so we will have to buy more sneakers in another 9-12 months. I told him that I did not want to buy him another pair because he wore them out so quickly but rather because he outgrew them. Maybe he should read and study more since one doesn’t outgrow or wear out his knowledge base like he does with his clothes and his sneakers.
Peace,
Rav Yitz

Thursday, August 20, 2015

Althea Told Me Upon Scrutiny That My Back Might Need Protection (Robert Hunter & Jerry Garcia - "Althea")



           Well we picked up our two teen-age daughters from summer camp.  I should have known what was in store for us when we picked them up. We were about an hour late and they were busy hanging around with the other staff kids. We had to look for them. There was no hug, just a passing hello as they ran off crying with their friends. We finally gathered them into the van.  They cried. They bemoaned the fact that they had to return to civilization. They bemoaned the fact they were returning to school. They bemoaned the fact that they couldn’t be loud, stay up late, and talk all night with their friends.  After the car ride and we arrived home and now it seems that no matter what we ask of our daughters, no matter what we do for our daughters, they snap at us, they yell at us and they basically remind us how horrible we are since we took them from camp and they have to wait another ten months before they return.  Their mother and I grew up going to camp, we know how terrific camp can be and how influential camp can be; and we know that there is a requisite decompression time before they return to themselves. Yet I can’t help but wonder that with another camp season passed, our influence has diminished and the influence of their friends and peers have increased. 

This Shabbat we read from Parsha Shoftim.  Moshe reminds B'nai Yisroel to establish courts upon their arrival in the land. He reminds Bnai Yisroel that there is no room for Idolatry, a crime punishable by death. He reminds Bnai Yisroel to be aware of the elder that teaches Torah in a perverse manner. Moshe prophesizes that Bnai Yisroel will want a king. However Moshe reminds the people that the king of Israel must never be like other Kings. In order to guarantee that the King of Israel behaves appropriately, he is commanded to have two Sifrei Torah. One Torah is to remain in the palace for safekeeping and one that he carries with him so that he can be reminded of what it means to be king. Moshe reminds Bnai Yisroel about prophecy and how to know who is a true prophet and who is not. He reminds Bnai Yisroel that they will have to fight in order to conquer the land and there are rules for waging war and negotiating for peace. He also explains that there will be cities of refuge established for those accused of manslaughter and must flee from the avenging family member. Finally he reminds Bnai Yisroel that a town has a responsibility for an unsolved murder. In essence, Moshe reminds Bnai Yisroel that there is no excuse to behave like other nations. Every aspect of life is governed my laws to remind Bnai Yisroel of this fact.

While Moshe reminds Bnai Yisroel of the myriad of laws that are established in order to prevent them from behaving like the other nations; there are moments that extreme measures must be taken.  These extreme measures only exist in the context of He’Arim Rechokot Mimcha Meod-cities that are very distant from you; those cities and those people should be wiped out: L’Maan Asher Lo Yilamdu Etchem La’Asot K’Chol To’Avotam Asu Leiloheihem L’Adoshem Elokeichemso that they will not teach you to act according to all their abominations that they performed for their gods so that you will sin to Hashem, your God. (Deut 20:15,18). What does it mean when the Torah mentions “a city that is very distant from you”? This is not an issue of geography, nor is it an issue of xenophobia or a simplistic version of racism. Rather, this category of city has everything to do with a place whose inhabitants are so far removed from the Noahide laws, so enmeshed in the idolatry that perverts the fundamental value of the sanctity of life, such inhabitants, and such a place should be destroyed.  The Torah’s reason is simple, so that this horrible influence shouldn’t be anywhere near the Jewish people.

No, we don’t look at our daughter’s summer camp experience as a “distant city” that needs to be eliminated. However, just as such a city needs to be eliminated because of the fear of that city’s influence upon Bnai Yisroel; we worry about those untoward influences upon our children. We also know that less and less places are truly distant yet the influences upon the Jewish people that are negative are plentiful. We cannot rid ourselves of such influences by eliminated the people and the place. Rather we can only eliminate the influence by strengthening Bnai Yisroel. As parents we can eliminate the negative influences, rather we can strengthen our children so that they have the tools to deal with those negative influences, even if it some of those influences come from their friends.
Peace,
Rav Yitz