Monday, September 18, 2017

Faring Thee Well Now; Let Your Life Proceed By Its Own Designs (John Barlow & Bob Weir - "Cassidy")



Well no sooner than the school year starts and the Jewish Holidays are upon us. With kids in day school, the holidays mean a few days of school and a few days off from school between now and the middle of October. With a daughter in Grade 12 (12th grade if you speak American), we have entered a new realm of anxiety. Our daughter discovered it late last week. We all know it as the future. Yes, late last week, it dawned on our daughter that she actually had to deal with and make plans for the future. She knows that she has to apply to colleges and universities, she wants to take a gap year in Israel, so she needs to decide on a program that fits her, her interests and the type of learning she wants to engage in. If she is planning on going to university/college in the United States she has to take standardized tests: SAT’s or ACT’s. Late last week, she was overtired, she was stressed about a biology assignment and now the subject of standardized tests came up. She became very upset, angry and didn’t want to listen to anyone or any advice. She knew it all, didn’t like any of the choices and at that moment decided that the only place she was going to the next four years was our basement.  A few days later she actually had a good night’s sleep. That afternoon, a completely different daughter peeked her head outside and saw that I was waking up from a nap. She wanted to talk. She wanted to talk about her future. She wanted to discuss a strategy of how to determine which Israel program she wants to go on. She wanted to discuss colleges and universities in the U.S. or Canada. She wanted to discuss standardized tests. I suggested that we limit the discussion to the Province of Ontario, the Northeast United States where there is a vibrant Jewish student population. We talked. She listened as did I. I assume there was anxiety but suddenly it didn’t cause paralysis; instead she seemed excited about the future.
This Shabbat, the Shabbat between Rosh HaShana and Yom Kippur, is known as Shabbat Shuva, The Shabbat of Return. We read from Parshat Ha’Azinu.  The Parsha is poetry, a song that God had commanded Moshe to compose in the previous Parsha, VaYeleich. Composing this song was the final deed that God commanded Moshe. The song is the final prophecy that God told Moshe in the previous Parsha, VaYeilech.  As a song, it is not contain the most pleasant of lyrics, and it is not particular uplifting or inspiration. The song does not offer such an optimistic future.  Rather, Moshe invokes Heaven and Earth to offer testimony to God’s prophecy and future punishment against his people.  Throughout Sefer Devarim, Deuteronomy, Moshe has taught the law, and inspired Bnai Yisroel to choose fidelity to God and God’s Torah.  Choosing to follow would result in a reward. Choosing not to follow would result in a punishment. Now, during the final moments of Moshe Rabeinu’s life, the song suggests neither choice nor the results of that choice. Instead we are told that we will choose badly and that we will be punished.  There is nothing explicit within the song that suggests or even offers a means by which we are able to do Tshuva (repent) and ultimately return to God. While intellectually, Moshe has taught that concept to Bnai Yisroel; here in the song that possibility is not explicit.
However when the song is complete, Moshe speaks his word to Bnai Yisroel. His words offer a sense of hope, a sense of inspiration. He reminds Bnai Yisroel that even when they have grown distant from God, even though the resulting punishment will be brutal; there is still a measure of hope, hope for the next generation.  SImu Levavchem L’Chol Hadvarim Asher Anochi Mei’id Bachem Hayom, Asher T’Tzavoom et Bnaichem Lishmor La’Asot et Kol Divrei HaTorah Ha’Zot -  Apply your hearts to all the words that I Testify against you today, with which you are to instruct your children, to be careful to perform all the words of this Torah.  Ki Lo Davar Reik Hu Mikem Ki Hu Chayeichem Uvadavar HaZeh Ta’Arichu Yamimfor it is not an empty thing for you, for it is your life, and through this matter shall you prolong your days on the Land to which you cross the Jordan to possess it. In Moshe’s final moments, he reminds us that the key to our survival is to teach Torah to our children. Yes, according to the song, we will grow distant from God, yes we will engage in idolatry. Yes we will be punishment. However there will always be hope for the next generation if they are educated in such a manner that when it comes time for them to make a choice; they choose wisely, they choose God’s Torah.  Moshe reminds his people that the Torah is not empty. Rashi reminds us that if we find Torah to be empty and unsatisfying then the fault lies with us, Mikem.
             While the conversation with my daughter lasted only about 30 minutes. It seemed positive or at least it will be positive until the anxiety becomes overwhelming again.  For now at least, for the past few days, she doesn’t seem to be dreading the future. No she doesn’t know specifically which program for her gap year, no she hasn’t been accepted nor has she even applied to colleges and universities. In fact, she sat down and began looking at the ACT examination, and began preparing for that standardized exam. However, she understands that there are things that she has to do, things she has to find out about, information she needs to obtain and a strategy that she needs to follow in order to achieve her five year future. She understand that if she engages in this process with an open heart and positive attitude; then her future won’t be such an empty thing.
Gmar Chatima Tova – May we all be sealed in the Book of Life,
Peace,
Rav Yitz

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